One of the quiet shifts in healing is realizing how much energy is spent searching for validation—especially from the people who shaped us. For a long time, I believed that if I could just explain myself clearly enough, someone would finally see me. Understand. Acknowledge the harm. Confirm that my…
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I carried a deep, quiet shame because of my divorce. Not because God placed it there—but because people did. Somewhere along the way, I absorbed the lie that if God hates divorce, then He must be angry with me. That my story disqualified me. That my broken marriage made me…
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I have a friend who is currently separated from her husband of more than twenty years. They share two sons, and in the wake of the separation, those sons have taken to resenting their mother for leaving their father. It’s heartbreaking to witness—not only because of the fractured family dynamic,…
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Do you ever think back to the choices you’ve made and quietly wonder, “What if I had chosen differently? Would my life look different today?” I do. More often than I’d like to admit. There are moments when the past tries to call my name—times when I replay old conversations,…
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There is a moment in Scripture that continues to undo me every time I read it. It’s the story of the woman who slipped quietly into the home of a Pharisee to see Jesus, carrying nothing but an alabaster jar and a heart shattered by both sin and longing. She…
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Something that has had my blood boiling more than once this past year is this: From a young age, so many little girls were taught that quietness equaled goodness. That being polite meant never disagreeing. That “children should be seen and not heard.” And without realizing it, those words planted…
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This morning, I was rummaging through some old jewelry boxes looking for something when I stumbled upon a few old photographs. Most were random snapshots of family, friends and events, but one in particular made me stop — a picture of my high school sweetheart. He was just sitting there…
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Why the Church Cannot Stay Silent Passivity is knowing that something is wrong, yet choosing to do nothing about it. It’s is not simply ignorance—it’s awareness without action. Take, for example, the shooting of Charlie Kirk. Murder is evil—always has been. But the murder of someone in a public setting…
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For much of my life, I believed that love and belonging were things I had to earn. I thought if I just tried hard enough—if I reached out, checked in, stayed available, and proved my loyalty—then the people I cared about would stay. Deep down, I was afraid of being…
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One of the most painful lessons many of us learn in life is this: not everyone has the same heart as you. Just because you love people deeply doesn’t mean they will love you the same way in return. Just because you go out of your way to show kindness,…